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Is it really love?
Real love doesn’t hurt. It’s equal. It’s fun. And you still have the freedom to be yourself.
In a healthy, happy relationship that’s based on real love, here’s what you can expect 100% of the time:
- being liked for being you
- honesty
- trust
- feeling good about yourself
- feeling valued and respected
- talking things through if a disagreement arises
- being listened to
- texting, calling and seeing anybody you want to
- wearing what you want
- freedom to change your mind
- freedom to have your own opinions
- staying close to your family
- being alone when you want
- not feeling guilty for hanging out with your friends
- breaking up without hassles
- give and take
- saying no whenever you want
- still doing things that just you like
- more good times than bad.
If you’re not getting this in your relationship, ask yourself: is this real love?
QUIZ: Am I being abused in my relationship?
This quiz is designed to give you some insight into your relationship. Please note that abuse can appear in other forms, too – every relationship is different. Learn more about the signs of abuse and types of abuse.
Tick in the box if any of these things have ever happened in your relationship, even once:
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If ticking in some or all of these boxes makes you think or know that your relationship is abusive, take the time now to learn about the types of abuse and effects of abuse, as well as how we can help you.
No one deserves to experience any of the situations above. Even if it doesn’t seem like it now, you can have a happy, healthy relationship that makes you feel excited. NEVER settle for something that’s hurting you. Ask yourself, is it really love?
QUIZ: am I being abusive in my relationship?
This quiz is designed to give you some insight into your relationship. Please note that abuse can appear in other forms, too – every relationship is different. Learn more about the signs of abuse and types of abuse.
Tick in the box if any of these things have ever happened in your relationship, even once:
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If ticking some or all of these boxes makes you think or know that you’re abusive in your relationship, then it’s time to get help.
Don’t settle for being an abusive partner. Even if it doesn’t seem like it now, you can have a happy and healthy relationship. Ask yourself, is it really love?
Talk to a counsellor at your school or tertiary institution, or another adult you trust, and ask them to help you get the support you need to change your attitude and behaviour. There are some awesome organisations in New Zealand that can help you, too.
So what’s the good news? Violent behaviour is a learned behaviour – which means you can unlearn it! You can break the cycle of violence from being passed on from one generation to the next. Get help now!
